Three things I don't want to hear from you:
I love you
Thank you
I'm sorry
Don't tell me you love me if it comes with a promise or an agenda.
Don't thank me with any feelings of obligation or indebtedness.
Don't tell me you're sorry as if I was expecting anything more.
Be with me if you will;
walk away if you must
I want no chains.
I want no guilt.
and I want no regrets, mine or yours.
Do not cling to me.
Do not give me more than your truth.
Sunday, November 9, 2008
A plea to the ones I love...
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This post requires some explanation, I guess.
I don't like people throwing the word "love" around so lightly. I also don't like the way many people perceive love--as some sort of duty or a promise. I believe love should be freely given and freely received.
Gratitude is often expressed with a simple "thank you," and many times with a note card which is a social etiquette. When gratitude comes from the heart, the words "thank you" need not be spoken at all; and if they are, the true gratitude goes far beyond the mere words.
If I am ever in the position of giving, I want it to be completely unconditional with no expectations whatsoever to receive anything in return... even the words "thank you." I was looking at myself when I was referring to this phrase. Can I actually give anything without the expectation of being recognized and appreciated for it?
The words "I am sorry" are the most painful to me. I believe in choices. If we chose to behave in a certain way, why does it need an apology? Is it for justification? In a relationship with no agenda and no expectations, there need not be any justification for our actions. Once trust has been established between two people, "I am sorry" becomes a moot point.
I say the three phrases more so than anyone else I know. That is the point. I am in a position to have to say them to so many people in my life in the way that it fits society standards. I say them often out of obligation.
My ideals are not always practical nor are they realistic. I have to live according to the rules of society that I am a part of. That is what makes me sad sometimes. The fact that I cannot possibly live up to my own ideals...
I cannot expect anyone else to understand...
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